Blaine Anderson
San Diego Matchmaker

Hand-picked introductions in San Diego. No apps, no noise. Just the perfect match.

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Your Professional Matchmaker In San Diego

My name is Blaine Anderson, and I've helped >7,000 happy clients find love since starting Dating By Blaine in 2020.

My work has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and even on Shark Tank (Mark Cuban offered me a deal during Season 15 🦈). Over 1 million singles follow me for dating tips on Instagram, YouTube, and X.

My mission is to help men in San Diego find amazing long-term partners!

I have a lot of experience in San Diego. My dad was a competitive volleyball player, and I've spent my summers on Mission Beach watching him play since I was 3 years old.

I have an amazing network of single girlfriends from Del Mar to Chula Vista, and if you're ready to find the woman of your dreams, I'd love to introduce you to her.

Here are photos from happy Dating By Blaine clients with their new girlfriends.
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San Diego Has A Unique Set Of Dating Challenges

Yes, San Diego is a city full of beautiful, athletic women. But that doesn't make the dating scene easy to navigate.

Here's what I hear from single guys in San Diego:

"I'm ready to settle down, but the women I meet aren't..."

San Diego's single population skews young. There's a flakiness problem, and it can feel like many of the most attractive women would rather play games than find a real relationship.

There are actually plenty of incredible single women in San Diego who are ready to find their person, but they're not always the ones you find on Hinge. This is a key area where my team and I can help.

"I lead a biotech company, and my schedule makes dating challenging..."

San Diego's biotech, life sciences, and finance ecosystems reward intense focus, and long hours at the office. Working hard is essential for advancing your professional life, but can pose obvious challenges for your dating life.

The good news is, the same way your EA takes work off your plate at the office, a matchmaker can take work off your plate when it comes to finding a partner.

"San Diego feels like a bubble, and I keep meeting the same people..."

Even though the broader single population in San Diego is enormous, it can feel like you've already met everyone worth meeting, especially if your social life is rooted in one neighborhood.

If you're ready to meet women outside of Encinitas, or La Jolla, or Pacific Beach (or wherever you're based!) who you haven't already dated your friends, matchmaking can be a powerful solution.

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How Matchmaking Works for San Diego Clients

Step 1: We Get To Know Each Other

Our first step is having a 1x1 conversation so I can understand your background and dating life.

How'd you get here? What makes you feel excited? Who do you tend to be attracted to? What does the right relationship look like? Dating-wise, what have you tried, and where have things broken down? Can we find who you're looking for in San Diego, or will we need to look farther afield?

If I'm confident I can make introductions you're excited about, we'll continue the conversation. If not, I'll be the first to tell you. Matchmaking is a huge investment of capital and time, and my good reputation is important to me, so I always put my clients' interests first.

Step 2: We Decide To Work Together

My matchmaking engagements are typically structured as 6-month searches, though depending on the client's circumstances, we can consider a shorter or longer engagement.

While we're working together, my team and I will guarantee between 5 and 10 hand-picked introductions to women who meet your search criteria. We have a phenomenal track record in San Diego, and we'll typically propose introductions to you at a pace of ~2 per month, though matches may materialize faster or slower for a variety of reasons.

We're not randomly meeting women at Mavericks and convincing them to take dates with you. Each introduction we make is carefully curated for mutual compatibility, based on your search criteria.

STep 3: We prepare you for dates

My San Diego matchmaking clients all get professional photos from the #1 local dating photographer, Christopher Todd, because you won't land the best matches if you don't look your best.

We may also scrub your online presence (e.g. Google, LinkedIn, Instagram) before we start your search to make sure your profiles aren't accidentally turning women off!

Step 4: We Find Your Matches

This is where we're different from most matchmakers in San Diego. We don't source dates from an ancient database of women who may also be paying for matchmaking services!

  1. Our personal networks
  2. Out and about
  3. Online (e.g. Instagram)

We have amazing access to attractive women around the city, and we're confident you'll be impressed with the caliber of matches we can deliver, especially vis-à-vis other local matchmakers.

Step 5: You Enjoy Great Dates

By the time we share a match with you, she'll already be familiar with your background, and have opted into meeting you for dinner or drinks.

Assuming you're excited to meet her, too, we can even help with the logistics of planning a date (e.g. given your backgrounds, Marisi in La Jolla might make sense...)

We want you to be able to show up, and have fun meeting someone new, with zero stress or anxiety!

What Clients Say About San Diego's #1 Matchmaker

Eric H • June 2025

I wanted to share with you my success story; and I am beyond happy. Last year I married the woman of my dreams. She’s also a doctor in physical therapy and has an incredible work life balance. I just wanted to say thank you Blaine. Really.

Matt B ∙ July 2025

Another success story for DBB. All is great with Amanda, and we are moving in together in a new house in 2 weeks! I would like to introduce you to my younger sister, so she can get into your network for male clients...

Matt G ∙ December 2024

I got engaged to the woman of my dreams! Thank you so much for the help, it was a big investment that I’m thankful I took, it helped me so much and led me to where I am today.

Richard M ∙ November 2025

Blaine, I wanted to send over a thank you and testimonial. Things are amazing with Emma, and we're traveling to Switzerland over New Years! Wish us luck!

WHy Clients Choose Our Matchmaking Service In San Diego

There are tons of matchmakers in San Diego. Here's why guys love our service:

1. We Have The Right Connections

Looking for an attractive woman in her 20s or 30s? Consider hiring a team of attractive women in their 20s and 30s! We're more likely to have personal connections with the women you want to meet than matchmakers decades older, because these women are our friends, and we meet them as part of our day-to-day lives.

2. We Find Each Match Just For You

Many competing matchmakers make introductions from their databases of women, who may also be paying for introductions. Our clients don't want that.

The guys we match for in San Diego want to meet the types of women who probably aren't in a matchmaker's database. These guys hire us because our team can actually find these women, and make introductions.

3. We Guarantee Results

I believe I'm unique in the matchmaking industry in that I offer a refund policy: if my team and I can't make introductions you're excited about, you can terminate our search anytime, and get a refund. Get in touch for details!

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Does This Sound Like You?

We've worked with men in San Diego from a variety of different backgrounds, but our matchmaking clients have a few things in common:
Women enjoy being around you.

You're not here because you can't land dates. You're here because you want help finding the right person.

You're ready for a real relationship.

You're not necessarily looking to get married tomorrow, but you want a long-term partner, not another hookup.

You can afford to invest in yourself.

Matchmaking is a significant investment because it's a labor-intensive service, and you're comfortable with that.

Sound like you, and want us to find your person in San Diego?
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How MucH Does A San Diego Matchmaker Cost?

Unlike many professional matchmakers, I don't hide my prices. My matchmaking service starts at $25,000.

The specific investment level depends on the complexity of your search, which boils down to:

  1. How hard will it be for us to find who you're seeking?
  2. Once we've found her, will she want to meet you?

Typically searches for San Diego clients land in the $30,000 - $45,000 range. We have an outstanding network of single girlfriends here, and we deliver results fast. If that's in budget, tap below to get in touch.

FAQs About San Diego Matchmaking

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What types of women do you match with San Diego clients like?

Most of our clients in San Diego are looking for women in their late 20s or early 30s who would make great moms. We also frequently work with guys who are a little older, already have kids, and are seeking to meet women in their 30s or 40s for partnership in a new chapter of life. Whichever bucket you fall into, we have a successful track record of finding beautiful, intelligent, accomplished, and feminine women who our clients are excited to meet!

I'm pretty introverted. Can matchmaking still work for me?

Probably! Many of our clients are introverts, and as long as you feel comfortable meeting women you have things in common with, we'd love to set you up.

The main reasons men in San Diego hire us are that we (i) handle the legwork of finding compatible matches, which saves time and effort, and (ii) deliver higher-quality dates than you'd find elsewhere. These tend to be especially valuable for introverted guys.

However, if you're so introverted that you can struggle to lead conversations with women, matchmaking probably isn't a good investment yet. You should consider hiring a dating coach as an alternative.

I travel to San Francisco (or elsewhere) often for work. Can you still help?

Yes. Many of our San Diego clients date in multiple cities (e.g. San Diego + San Francisco, or San Diego + Los Angeles) and as long as you have some visibility into your travel schedule, we're glad to find matches for you based on where you spend your time.

How long will it take to find my person?

Some of our San Diego clients find their person within the first few introductions. Others take longer. The timeline depends on your match criteria, your availability for dates, and of course a bit of luck!

We typically structure our matchmaking engagements as 6-month searches for this reason. We can't predict if a woman is your future wife before you've ever met her, so we want to give you the opportunity to meet a number of high-quality women who are aligned with your goals and values.

I'm a woman in San Diego, how can I meet your matchmaking clients?

If you're an amazing single woman in the San Diego area, and you'd like to be considered as a match for our clients, fill out my women's intake here.

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Not In San Diego?
Not A Problem!

I designed this page for potential matchmaking clients in the San Diego area, but we work with guys across the U.S. and even in a few cities abroad like London, Mexico City, and Tel Aviv.

We tend to deliver the best results to clients who are dating in:

Stepping back, we're able to find amazing matches almost anywhere. We're glad to at least explore working together wherever you're based, or looking to date.

We also know our limits, and we'll be honest about whether we feel confident we can find who you're looking for. Tap below to get in touch, and let's chat!

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If you read this far, you'll love working with us. Get in touch!

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